Getting upset is an emotional response you have control over.
If you are getting upset, it may indicate you have mixed emotions about the position.
Perhaps you would like to change positions, with all the advantages that go with it, or maybe you don’t due to a fear of the unknown.
It’s easy to get set in our ways and comfortable with our current situation.
Assuming you are struggling with whether to take the new position or not, a strategy I use to resolve problems like this is a T Graph.
At the top of the page on the left-hand side, write Pros. And on the right-hand side write Cons.
Brainstorm as many ideas as you can to fill in both sides of the graph. The task is to decide whether you should take the new position or not.
Don’t think about what you have written. The task at this point is to generate ideas and to put your thoughts to paper, not to evaluate them for accuracy.
The next step is to look at each individual entry. Determine if what you have written is True or False.
Upon completion of this last step, you should have a document that contains a list of truths about your decision. If you have more truths on one side over the other, that is likely where your decision lays.
This strategy is a logical approach to an emotional question. Once you have your facts in front of you, you can make your decision.
Having regrets after making your decision is commonplace. I would suggest keeping your T-graph so you can refer to it later to remind yourself how and why you made your decision.
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