There appears to be two parts to this question. The first part addressing fear, appears to be clear. The second part I’m not sure about. I’m going to interpret it as “even if I don’t want what society expects?”
Obviously, this is going to be a one-sided discussion. If you were sitting with me I would challenge your way of thinking from a few different angles:
- What makes you believe that society is looking down on you?
- Who exactly is ‘society’?
- Is it every body that you have ever met?
- Is it a specific group of individuals?
- Or is it specific individuals i.e. not part of a group?
- How do you describe the fear that you are experiencing? How does if feel to you i.e. signs & symptoms?
- Do you have fears in other aspects of your life?
- Would you describe yourself as shy? If so, in all situations or just some?
I’ve answered a few questions on fear & shyness here in Empowering Tips for Success. They may be of help to you. Check out these articles:
As for your fear of being looked down on by society, you may benefit from some psychological counselling to help you explore those feelings and to develop strategies to overcome your feelings. As a long-time mental health clinician I believe that almost everybody can benefit from speaking to a professionally trained counsellor. There have been times in my life that I should have taken this advice myself.
As for the second part of the question, based on not really understanding what the intent is, I’m not really sure myself what society expects. There are certainly laws, morals and values but these aren’t universal. Different societies, countries and geographical regions may have their own. Perhaps an in depth look at your local society or having a discussion with someone you trust and can express a quality opinion may be of value.
Thanks for your question!
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