Tag: Learning New Skills

Forgiving ain’t about forgetting or saying it was okay to get hurt. It’s about letting go of that control someone’s got on you because they hurt you. Think of it like sending those heavy feelings off in a helium balloon. But no, I don’t forgive everyone. Why? Because not every hurt fades away, and that’s okay.

Forgiving your mom starts with understanding what’s really going on. Is she hurting you now, or is this past stuff? If it’s happening now, you gotta set those boundaries first. Forgiveness is more for you than her; it lets you move on. But you need some sort of closure before you can truly let go.

Stuck thoughts are like a hamster on a wheel in your brain, just going round and round. If you wanna stop ’em, first, chill out on the stress. Get some good sleep and distract yourself. Some folks even use a rubber band on the wrist; snap it when that thought comes back. If all else fails, maybe see a pro.

When you stand up for yourself, you’re shaking up the status quo. People might’ve liked you ’cause you were easy to control. Now, you’re changing the game. It can make ’em uneasy or even angry. Being assertive ain’t the same as being aggressive. Find that middle ground. Get some new tools in your toolbox besides just a “hammer.”

Changing from shy and anxious doesn’t make you fake. Your personality isn’t set in stone; it evolves. If you’re trying new ways to be social, it might feel awkward at first. But stick with it. Takes about 21 days to break a habit and make the new stuff feel natural. Being more comfortable with yourself can actually make you more authentic.

When someone praises you, a simple “thank you” usually does the trick. If you’re in the spotlight, don’t hog it. Share the love with people who helped you get there. But watch out, not all praise is what it seems. Some folks might be buttering you up for their own gain. Stay sharp, and give praise to get better at taking it.

Worried about what “society” thinks? First, figure out who you mean by ‘society.’ Is it everyone or just some folks who bug you? Get clear on what scares you. Maybe talking to a pro can help sort those feelings out. Remember, society’s rules aren’t one-size-fits-all. Talk to someone you trust to get a better view on what really matters.

Trust ain’t an on-off switch, it’s more like a dimmer. You got people you don’t trust a bit, and others you trust a lot. Even that can change over time. Do you trust someone 100%? Maybe, but don’t forget everyone’s got their own scale of trust. If someone messes up, you decide if they get a second shot at your trust.

Feeling inferior? First step is deciding you’re done with that. You gotta change before it gets worse than staying the same. Look, knowledge is only power if you use it. Learn some assertiveness skills. Maybe even join a Toastmasters club to boost that self-confidence. Stop the victim talk in your head and take action.

Fake laughs? Yeah, done it. Especially when a joke crosses the line but you don’t wanna make it awkward. The world’s changing, man. Jokes that hurt ain’t cool anymore. But you know, my little granddaughter told a turkey joke. Did I fake laugh? Absolutely. It’s all about the time and place.